Ever have a thought in your head that just lingers, so much so that it blocks other thoughts? Well, lately, I've wanted to get some substantive writing done before the school year begins again, and I have papers to grade, but something has been lingering... in my waking moments, in my dreams, and I feel that if I write it out, perhaps I can dislodge it from my mind for a while. So, here it is:
I can't stop thinking about wanting someone in my life in a semi-/romantic way. Not necessarily long term (although who knows?), but not for casual encounters, either.
I've been single since November 2015, and I've basically been through the mountain range of emotions, the kind of mountain range you need a sherpa to navigate. I am in a much better place now, and I'm good with being on my own. I just can't shake the thought of wanting someone special in my life. I'm talking more about the occasional coffee date or dinner and a movie. A walk through a park (when it's not hotter than Hades outside). A whimsical romp through an antiquing district. Just something that two people can do to enjoy one another's company. I'm not against romance or a relationship, but I'm not sure I'm 100% ready for something BIG just yet.
I've been in relationships (two, to be exact) for about 20 years. Being "me" for a while isn't a bad thing. In fact, it's been a very good thing. I can decorate my house how I like (in my Mid-Century Modern aesthetic that I love so much), and eat what I want (which usually revolves around Mediterranean-inspired cuisine or Sweet Tomatoes because who doesn't love a salad bar?), and do what I want (if I want to binge watch Star Trek: Voyager, I can!).
So, one might ask, "David, who do you envision to play the part of a companion?" If I were a casting director for a film, it'd be easier, but I am not. But, here's who I see:
- He should be my age (49. No really, I am. The big 5-0 comes next year), give or take a few years, or younger.
- He should have at least a college education if not more. I don't care if it's a B.A. in Waste Management or a B.S. in Mechanical Engineering, but I do want to be around someone who thirsts for knowledge. Being literate would be important, too. Knowing how to use there/their/they're would be a plus! OH! And he should like to read. What can I say... intelligence is sexy.
- He should be employed. It'd be nice if he liked what he did, but he should certainly have a job. Ideally? He should make as much as I do or more. Hey, I'm being honest.
- He should love culture: music, art, drama, literature... you name it. He doesn't have to have the novel One Hundred Years of Solitude memorized or know how to play the score to Sunday in the Park with George in its entirety, but he should have a diverse palate.
- He should like to talk. It could be about inane subjects or philosophical ones. He can wax about the words now in the OED or he can opine about different kinds of wine. Did I mention that intelligence was sexy?
- He must be fitness-oriented. I go to the gym and run, and I'd like to have the chance to share that with someone. We can even like different activities, as long as it involves movement. Who doesn't like to sit on the couch and watch a movie, but when it's time to get outside and MOVE, I want to know he's willing to join me.
- He should appreciate my decision to keep kosher, although he doesn't have to. Should things progress into a longer arrangement, he'd have to be willing to be eat kosher foods or be vegetarian in the house. Outside, he can gnaw on baby back pork ribs if he's so inclined, as long as brushes first.
Now, religion wouldn't matter for this person who would take me to dinner or Starbucks or go running with me. More than that? Well, let's just say I'd prefer someone Jewish. Being observant and kosher, I couldn't have a crucifix or a cross in my home. But, this is for another blog entry.
Anywho... I know this sounds like an OKCupid profile (I no longer belong to dating sites for a multitude of reasons), and that wasn't really my intention. I just needed to get this out of my head. Now that I have downloaded all of this, maybe my brain can focus on things like writing The Archer's Paradox, The Quest of Wyndracer and Fyrehunter, or Of Mortal Bonds.
I would love that.